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It’s not about us; it’s all about God

Most of us were excited when we joined our first church planting team; excited to be part of something bigger than ourselves. Whatever form that church planting team took (translation, mercy ministry or small group outreach), we quickly recognized the benefit of being part of a team that was more than just one (1) person engaged in the work.

However, at some point, the team or a team member called us to account for the work that we had or had not been doing.  It may not have been something major, but our reaction made the proverbial ‘molehill into a mountain’.  To put it in other words, we took it personally.  Someone else was taking us to task; our work was being put into question. 

In that moment, we made the conscious choice to centre the work in which we were engaged around ourselves.  It was more about us in the end than it was about God’s purposes in this world.

I would argue that many of us easily slip into this mindset and way of thinking. And in many respects, it’s a natural reflex. However, the Scriptures are clear that the work that God has called us to is His work: “I will build My church”.  We don’t read that text as “David, Paul, Laura or Heidi will build God’s church”.  And yet, by our actions and reactions, we often say that very thing.

The mission, the vision that God has called us to as a community beats or trumps all!

When you find yourself reacting to the feedback or criticisms of others by defending yourself and putting yourself at the centre of what God is doing in the world, step back and take a deep breath.  And remember, or ask someone else to remind you, that the work is first and foremost about Him and His vision, His project for this world.

That’s why we need the larger community. That’s why we work in teams.

Watch your language

My mother used to tell my brothers and I, “Watch your language”, whenever a word thatWatch-your-language-1868661-ralphiesoap_super came out of our mouths that was not helpful or something said that would not build up others.  She didn’t primarily use that phrase because of bad language, but because of unhelpful or damaging language we were using.

When we live and minister among another people group other than our own, we need to ‘watch over our language’.  What I mean is we cannot accept a ‘global understanding’ of another’s language.  We should not settle for just passable language acquisition.

The apostle Paul writes in the context of our teaching and disciping: “For this I toil, struggling with all his energy that powerfully works within me” (Colossians 1:29).  We are to ‘work hard’ as an athlete does in all our efforts and work, including language acquisition.

When do not make this effort, we create a context where the Gospel message might be truncated; where our ‘language’ potentially ends up hindering the clear communication of the Gospel message in another cultural context.

Many of us have experienced a similar situation when we talk with someone from another culture who is trying to speak in our mother tongue.  If that person’s language skills are just okay, we find ourselves struggling to understand the real content of their ‘message’.  It feels like we are missing something, and we end up using reductionist language in order to continue the conversation.

Two principles should guide us as we seek to ‘communicate well’ with others.

First, remember that language acquisition is a lifelong project.  I still remember learning the word for ‘apple core’ while running with my teammate, David. He saw an apple core on the ground, turned to me and said “Do you know the word for that in French?”  I didn’t, but I learned it that day.  And I had already been in France for over seven years.

Second, regularly ask others for help.  If language acquisition is a lifelong project, then we should not slow down the learning process.  When your teammate, your national co-worker, or another friend encourages you to speak more in the national language, your language ability and your capacity to share the good news will grow and deepen.

Why the ‘tyranny of the urgent’ plagues us

Most of us have the best of intentions when we start out our day or our week.  Some of us may even have spent time reflecting, ahead of time, on what should be our ‘most important’ ministry tasks in that coming week. However, the week gets started and … two or three ‘urgent’ emails come into our box needing ‘immediate’ attention; a ministry partner calls and asks if you could do lunch together today; and the one hour Skype call turns into a two and one-half hour discussion.  It’s the ‘tyranny of the urgent’ where everything that comes across our desk needs to be addressed now.

tyranny of the urgentThe ‘tyranny of the urgent’ plagues all of us.

Our hearts, as cross cultural workers, are attuned to the needs of others and so we genuinely want to meet the needs of others; whether it’s an email, a luncheon appointment or an online discussion.  We just have a hard time saying ‘no’ in the moment and learning to juggle our days in light of His mission to which He has called us.

‘Interruptions’ are certainly God given opportunities for growth and ministry.  However, God has given us a missional task that calls for us to focus our energies, not dissipate them in a flurry of activity that may not lead us to seeing that missional task realized.

Perhaps the following steps (or others) might help us stem the tide of the plague of the ‘tyranny of the urgent’ in our lives:

Ask the simple question: Do I really need to do this now?  Oftentimes, I place the expectation of immediate response on myself.  When I go back to a person and ask if I can meet with them later or if I can answer their question in a few days, they are happy to give me that added time.

Solicit the help of others.  Many of the leadership teams I have worked on have helped me to respond to an immediate request by saying: “I need to talk to my leadership team about this before I can give you an answer.”  This lets me to put that activity in a larger context and to get the input of others first.

Ponder whether the ‘tyranny of the urgent’ activity helps to fulfill the larger calling of God on one’s life that week.  The answer may be a resounding ‘yes’ and you can jump in with all your gusto.  Or it may be a ‘no’.  Yet, by placing it in that larger context, it gives you the ability to sort out those ‘tyranny of the urgent activities’ so as to keep your mind and heart focused on the larger objective.

Pride runs deep

How easy it is for us to forget that the work of Jesus Christ on our behalf is the reason why we are we part of the family of God.  Day by day, our works ‘shout out’ to others around us that we are part of the family because of all the ‘good’ that we do, because of the many hours of ministry in which we engage, and because we ‘gave up’ a better career to serve God cross culturally.

We’ve got it all wrong.  As one writer put: “It is painful to pride to discover that the Christian life is not rooted in what we can do, but in what we need done to us.”

proudPride.  It’s the belief that we can live and do ministry on our own.  Really.  We might not say that out loud.  We might use all the right spiritual phrases, but our pride will not let us go as far as to say: ‘we can do nothing apart from Him.”

It is the painful ‘tearing away’ from that self-centeredness in which we must engage each day.  However, even to do that, we need the working of Christ’s Spirit in our hearts (Psalm 139:23-24).

Pride runs deep. It will not be overcome in a day’s effort.  It is a marathon work that calls us to daily repentance and faith.  It is a journey where we need others to help us move away from self-centeredness towards other-centeredness.

Humility? Really?

So far, I’ve mentioned the following foundational principles in CPM:

(1) “Foundations are forever” – that what is ‘poured into’ a community from the start will dictate how it functions and works

(2) “Nationals do it better” – that our objective as cross cultural workers is to train and give way to local believers to do the ministry.

(3) Community prayer – that prayer is the foundational principle in CPM different-dimensions-of-humility-990x580as we consciously affirm that this is God’s work, not ours.

Perhaps a fourth one would be a humble spirit.

Really?  In looking over the first three principles, I realized that one of the links that tied all of them together was a humble spirit.  It takes a humble spirit to regularly put in question what he/she is laying as a foundation.  It takes a humble spirit to ‘give way’ to others and allow them to take responsibility for the ministry.  It takes a humble spirit to cry out to God that His will be done and that we would decrease while He increases.

There are no six steps towards greater humility.  Up to this point, I have not found ‘humility’ in any of the assessment categories on an annual evaluation.  Yet, we are called to demonstrate humility (James 4:6).  Humility grows from allowing God to search our hearts and drive us back to Him; back to His love, forgiveness, and the honour He bestows on us.  Humility also grows as we open ourselves to the ‘outside-in’ input of others. In other words, by living in close enough ‘community’ (virtually or in person) we allow others to speak into our lives.

I don’t trust the plan

I have been reading the book, Nothing is Impossible: Reflections on Weakness, Faith, and Power, by Rose Marie Miller, with several colleagues.  It is the story of Rose Marie’s lifelong journey to see the Gospel worked out in very tangible ways in her everyday life and character.  Her honesty is disarming, but also strikes to the core of what plagues us the most: self.

At one point, she makes this short but telling statement: “She needs faith that God has a good, the plansovereign, wise plan for her son and the rest of the family.  Our basic problem is this: We don’t trust the plan.  We are taught by our flesh, by Satan, by our culture, even by other Christians, that we must do everything we can to avoid suffering.”

We delight in ‘being the masters of our fate’ and grate when the Lord uses situations to remind us us of how much we trust in the flesh.  We don’t like it when God uses others to re-align our plans with His.  We struggle to follow a decision our team has made or to respond graciously to a request from leadership for needed information or statistics.

Now I’m not denying the fact that some of the life situations we face, or the decisions and requests made might be worth challenging.  However, our normal reaction to these events is to question the heart intent of those involved in causing those events or making those decisions.  We reason that we would have made a better (read: ‘much wiser and smarter’) choice.

Many of us can probably remember a time when a leadership team or colleagues made a decision that we needed to get additional experience and training before moving into a new job or ministry that had been proposed to us.  We probably chafed at the ‘lack of understanding’ of these people.  However, if we look back now on that life event, we realize we struggled to ‘trust the plan’. In the long run, I’m sure that decision actually had nothing but major beneficial impact on our life and future.

In ourselves, we don’t know what is always best. However, God has given us His Spirit and He has placed you and I in a community where we can learn to discover His will for each moment and boldly walk in it.