• Our hope-filled future is bound up in sharing the story of Jesus, in discipling others, in bringing those disciples together into communities of believers, and in developing and releasing those believers to create other communities... till Jesus the King comes again!

“Come Messy”

Jesus does not say, “Come to me, all you who have learned how to concentrate in prayer, whose minds no longer wander, and I will give you rest.”  No, Jesus opens his arms to his needy children and says, “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28, NASB).  The criteria for coming to Jesus is weariness.  Come overwhelmed with life.  Come with your wandering mind.  Come messy.”

I can relate, as maybe you can, to the struggle that Paul Miller describes here in chapter 3 of what he calls a “wandering mind”.  But as I re-read this chapter, an even earlier statement hit me harder:

When we slow down to pray, we are immediately confronted with how unspiritual we are, with how difficult it is to concentrate on God.  We don’t know how bad we are until we try to be good.  Nothing exposes our selfishness and spiritual powerlessness like prayer.”

Wait a minute, I thought, how can he talk about selfishness and powerlessness when I am for the most part consistent in my prayer time?  As soon as those thoughts came to mind, I realized I was trying to gain some advantage with God, rather than admitting my neediness to “come messy” to Him. Miller drives the point home even further when he says:  

Ironically, many attempts to teach people to pray encourage the creation of a split personality.  You’re taught to “do it right.” Instead of a real, messy you meeting God, you try to re-create yourself by becoming spiritual.  No wonder prayer is so unsatisfying.  So instead of being paralyzed by who you are, begin with who you are.  That’s how the gospel works.  God begins with you.  It’s a little scary because you are messed up.”

Now I re-read this part several times as I thought maybe the author (or publisher) missed a word somewhere: “So instead of being paralyzed by who you are, begin with who you are.”  His point is that prayer is about getting our identity straight from the start.  In fact, prayer is probably about our need to get it straight every day.  Maybe that explains the title of this chapter, “Become Like a Little Child.” 

Let’s talk together about these questions:

  • What does “beginning with who you are” look like in practical ways, for you, in your prayer journey?
  • What are some of the ways of “non-personal, nonreal praying that you’ve been taught” that need to be unlearned?

 

 

In The Busyness of Life

There were several parts in the second chapter of the book, A Praying Life, which caused me to step back and reflect.  One was where Paul Miller commented:

The quest for the contemplative life can actually be self-absorbed, focused on my quiet and me. If we love people and have the power to help, then we are going to be busy.  Learning to pray doesn’t offer us a less busy life; it offers us a less busy heart.  In the midst of outer busyness we can develop an inner quiet.  Because we are less hectic on the inside, we have a greater capacity to love … and thus to be busy, which in turns drives us even more into a life of prayer.”

I would probably have to say that I search for a less busy life rather than a less busy heart leading to a “greater capacity to love.” 

A second thought that struck me, just a few paragraphs later, was where he says:

As you develop your relationship with your heavenly Father, you’ll change.  You’ll discover nests of cynicism, pride, and self-will in your heart.  You will be unmasked.  None of us likes being exposed.  We have an allergic reaction to dependency, but this is the state of the heart most necessary for a praying life.  A needy heart is a praying heart.  Dependency is the heartbeat of prayer.”

Seeing more of “one’s stuff” is seemingly not a major driver to prayer, and yet somehow it prepares the heart to a “greater capacity to love” God and others.

So, in the busyness of our lives, let’s talk about these questions:

  • Describe what feeds your “busy heart”.  What causes your heart, at times, to be on such an adrenaline rush?
  • Why does repentance, seeing and turning from our own sin, need to be such an important part of our experience and connection with God?

Fierce Independence

As we begin a global conversation on the book, A Praying Life, I encourage you to read or re-read the first five chapters.  Each Monday, I and others will share questions, insights and thoughts about a chapter or section of the book that we hope will encourage this dialogue between us.  I hope you will join us.

In the very first chapter, we read these comments by Paul Miller:

We are so busy that when we slow down to pray, we find it uncomfortable.  We prize accomplishments, production.  But prayer is nothing but talking to God. It feels useless, as if we are wasting time.  Every bone in our bodies screams, “Get to work”

If we try to be quiet, we are assaulted by what C.S. Lewis called “the Kingdom of Noise.”  Everywhere we go we hear background noise. If the noise isn’t provided for us, we can bring our own via iPod … 

One of the subtlest hindrances to prayer is probably the most pervasive. In the broader culture and in our churches, we prize intellect, competency, and wealth.  Because we can do life without God, praying seems nice but unnecessary.  Money can do what prayer does, and it is quicker and less time-consuming. Our trust in ourselves and in our talents makes us structurally independent of God.  As a result, exhortations to pray don’t stick.”

This “fierce independence” that Paul Miller describes is what caught my attention (and what I chose to underline).  A couple of questions to get us talking,

  • Describe what “structural independence” from God looks like in your life?  In your prayer life?
  • How can you (we) counter this fierce independence in such a way as to “slow down to pray” and learn a fervent dependence?

Pray Leading to Pray Leading to …

Around a table like this, the 4500 participants of the Lausanne Congress gather each AM to study the book of Ephesians.  It is amazing the silence in the room as everyone takes time to first individually study the text of Ephesians before beginning to share with their table group members.  Table A054 is where I meet with Dusan, Daehaeng and Nawal.

Following our group study, the plenary session speaker takes time to share his/her thoughts.  Some things that have struck me so far the past two days:

  • That chapter 1 of Ephesians is made up of two prayers: a doxological prayer (1:3-14) and a prayer for the Ephesian believers (1:15-23).  The doxological prayer gives rise, gives inspiration to his prayer for the Ephesian church. 
  • This doxological prayer is a deep and profound reflection on the Gospel and the acts that led to redemption; all that God did to bring us to Himself.
  • The amazing “breaking in” of God in the midst of our unbelievable hopelessness (chapter two), having been held in the eternal grip of death: “But God …” (2:4). He “re-creates” us in Christ to give us forgiveness, value, purpose and identity.
  • Message of the Gospel is a mission of reconciliation, yet are those around us struck by what they see in the church?

These studies lead right into the morning’s theme issue of “making the case for the truth of Christ” (Monday) and “the ministry of reconciliation in the world” (Tuesday).  It’s really impossible to try and summarize in a few words, the thrust of the messages. Suffice it to say that this morning we challenged from the Word, by speakers and by video clips to grasp & feel God’s desire to restore all that is broken in our world.

But I would encourage you to see what’s been posted to the Lausanne website of the sessions: www.lausanne.org.

On The Way To Cape Town

I leave tonight for Cape Town (23h20 Paris time), and would appreciate your prayers for traveling mercies as well as for what I shared in a previous post: that I would have a posture of “humble listening”; that I would listen well to others and discern what God is saying to me and to us as a mission community through these brothers and sisters in Christ from so many different nations and people groups. 

Thanks for the ongoing conversation.  I’ll talk to you from Cape Town.

Ours Should Be “A Praying Life”

Watching one of the 33 Chilean miners emerge from “rescue capsule” and fall to his knees in prayer to thank “el Señor”, reminded me of the unbelievable “rescue” achieved for us in Jesus.  It was a simple yet profound image of what our constant reflex should be, that is, to “fall to our knees” in prayer and thank our Father for His work in rescuing and adopting us.  Ours should be a praying life.

David Powlison introduces the book, A Praying Life, with this thought: “A praying life is an oddly normal way to live.  The best our world has to offer is to teach you how to talk to yourself.  Change what you tell yourself, and your feelings about yourself will change.  Change your self-talk, and how you feel about yourself with change.  Talk yourself out of getting upset about what you can’t change.  Do something constructive about what you can change.  Those are the world’s best efforts.  It’s a familiar but abnormal way to live.  But Jesus lives and teaches something different.  What he does – and helps you do – is unfamiliar but normal.  It’s human and it’s humane: how life’s meant to be.  He teaches you how to stop talking to yourself.  He shows how to stop making prayer into a production.  Jesus teaches you to start talking with your father – to “my Father and your Father”.”

It is that life of talking with our Father that we want to encourage one another in as we read this book together.  I have talked to many who have already begun to read the book and are finding benefit in it. 

Beginning November 1st, I and others will share questions, insights and thoughts about each chapter or section of the book that we hope will encourage dialogue between us.